In honor of Toby's unprecedented tantrum on Cross Currents:
In all the articles and comments about whether wives are not abused by their husbands, one major factor I haven’t seen mentioned is the character of the individual wife. I know a woman who is a sweet, outgoing, pleasant, talented, easy-going person, and she finds her husband to be delightful and wonderful. He is good, warm, intelligent, altogether admirable. I know another woman who is sour, dour, prickly and altogether a difficult person, and she finds that her husband is cold, unwelcoming, uncaring, and smacks her around from time to time. And both of these women formed their impressions while married to the same man! Fancy that.
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To clarify:
My point about how husbands act was not “A wife should put on a false smile, and overlook all the crockery that her husband throws her way.” It was, “If you are nice to other people, they will be nice to you.” This is a worthwhile lesson for everyone to learn, not only abused women.
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OMG!!! WTH!!!! Can't you people get it straight?!?!
It is astonishing to me that people find such difficulty simply reading the words on a page (or on the screen). Three quarters of the comments here would have been rendered entirely moot had people simply READ my opening sentence. Here it is. Read it. It answers all criticisms:
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In all the articles and comments about whether wives are not abused by their husbands, one major factor I haven’t seen mentioned is the character of the individual wife.
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OK, for you dyslexics out there, let’s read this slowly and carefully. Did you get that phrase “one major factor”? Let’s look at it again. *ONE* major factor.
And did you get that bit about “In all the articles and comments…..”? Huh? Huh? See, that means “There have been a LOT OF ARTICLES AND COMMENTS and they raised a lot of points and I don’t have to rehash EVERY SINGLE POINT EVERYONE EVER MADE before I can add one more comment of my own!”
I just wanted to add ONE factor, one factor that nobody else mentioned. I did not want to, and did not need to, repeat what everybody else has already hashed and rehashed ad infinitum, about everything that is wrong with men, especially abusive men. It’s coming out of my ears already. Got that? OK everybody now go away, all this negativity is totally getting on my nerves.
Man, I love being a moderator here on X-Currents. No one else would get away with a post like this...
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Actually, one more things, you lousy good-for-nothings...
Mrs Fleece, you wrote: “…in concert with intellectual honesty, the 2 examples you cite hardly constitute a scientific poll”
That’s an incredibly insulting and condescending remark. Did I claim it was a scientific poll? Do I have to cite footnotes and sources, before I can write one paragraph on a blog?!
You then wrote:
“As an example: For over a year I was married to a nice man. I was very nice to him, too. Every Erev Shabbat he brought me roses… And then, when he was in a bad mood, everything changed, and he broke my nose.”
How ironic! You made your point — by bringing an example!
Possibly you yourself realized that the pot was calling the kettle black, because you quickly added, “I have far more anecdotes.”
Well, guess what? So do I. And I'm the moderator. So I can post as many as I want. And you can't. So ha!
< flounces away petulantly >
M.D.
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